Noah’s outfit: HazelBerry & Co. c/o
I often read & hear a lot of talk about being a working mom, that hustle, hype on being a #girlboss, and on and on. While I totally agree this woman/mama empowerment is needed for families and society as a whole, I also want to throw out there the importance and valuable job those mamas who stay at home to raise their babies have, too. This IS our hustle. Not side hustle either, full time, 24/7 kind of hustle. Haha I’m not sure how I got to using that word so much so soon.. Anyhow, I have had my fair share of thinking up, creating, and dreaming of businesses I could start or ways I could contribute more tangible value to our family, aka income. I’ve realized and reminded myself many times that being a mother and a wife is the dream job. It’s my dream job. I truly have always wanted this life. It is so important and so wonderful. Call me old fashioned, but I really believe in many things considered to be “traditional”. That doesn’t mean us mamas aren’t creative, talented, ambitious, etc. Many of us even have an additional “side hustle” or creative outlet we love and pursue during nap time. I created this post/interview collaboration because I wanted to share some honest insight into the good, the bad, and the beautiful job that is raising babes. I wanted other moms to relate and be reassured in their own lives, too.
I am so very excited to share with you all that I have pulled together a group of beautiful mothers who stay at home full-time to care for their homes and raise their babies. They are all joining me in sharing what it means to be a stay at home mama. The joys and the challenges, the day-to-day grind and more! I am incredibly happy to be along side such women to give all you mamas, who also stay home, a little insight, perspective, encouragement, inspiration, and hopefully some laughs!
1. Describe a typical day’s schedule.
A typical day in our life would look a little like this:
Wake up, nurse, have coffee while Noah plays, eat breakfast and feed Noah solids. Then we sometimes like to go for a walk (workout) and by the time we get home it’s time for Noah’s morning nap. During his nap, I try to do a little yoga and take a shower/get ready! He usually wakes around 11:00 and then we nurse again, he plays, I juggle whatever I can handle (laundry, emails, weaving, playing with him, etc.) varies by day. Sometimes this is the time of day I run errands, grocery shop, target, coffee. Around noon we eat lunch and then repeat the before noon playtime routine. By 2/2:30 he is ready for another nap. Although he has been more difficult lately on getting the timing right. If it’s a good nap day he will nap from 2-4pm. It’s more like one hour though. I typically feed him dinner at 5:30 and let him try to feed himself now! At 6 it’s bath time, then we get pj’s on, nurse, put him in the warm sleep sack (while awake) and turn off all lights and leave the room. Within a few minutes he is asleep and I’m ready for my dinner and glass of wine! Ha. My husband and I usually watch a tv show and relax and then we do it all again the next day.
2. What is one thing as a mama that makes your heart pitter-patter?
Seeing my baby smile and laugh is probably the greatest thing ever. I never knew how much my heart could love another until I became a mom. It sounds cheesy, but he fills me with so much joy.
3. How has being a mother/homemaker challenged you?
Motherhood is not the most glamorous job and staying home is not always easy. For me, being a mom has been challenging in that life is not just about me. My days and weeks, vacations, sleep, etc. revolve around him. He makes my world go round and keeps me grounded. ;) I feel like I am someone who loves productivity and I really like to check things off my to-do list, so becoming a mom has made that difficult on me. I have to learn to be okay with not checking many items of that list and fully focusing on the things I need to do to keep my boy happy and healthy. It, after all, is a job in itself.
4. Do you struggle with routine or do you have a happy reliable routine down?
Routine is not just something I myself crave, but I totally believe it is highly necessary for little ones. I’ve been pretty good about creating routine for Noah and I. I really think it’s helped us stay sane. Haha! That way he and I know what to expect and can be in good moods!
5. What are two things you do for yourself to recharge? Maybe in that coveted “me time” or during nap time?
I really enjoy practicing yoga. I try to get to my mat when Noah has his morning nap depending on the day. It refreshes me and makes me feel like I’m working out/taking care of myself. Another way I love to unwind is to take a bubble bath or read a book. All so relaxing!
6. How would you describe your parenting style in 3 words?
Calm. Structured. Simple.
7. When do you feel the most joy in your day? Be honest even if it’s once the kiddos are in bed asleep! ;)
The highlight of an average day has to be when I come to get Noah out of his crib in the morning. He rolls over and smiles with excitement to see me in the morning. He is in the best mood in the morning and after a good nap. It is seriously the cutest ever and my heart bursts with happiness every time! Beginning the day with a big smile and the feeling of being needed and loved is the best.
I will admit after Noah is in bed and asleep I do a bit of a happy dance and often pour myself a glass of wine. It’s kinda joyful, too.☺️
8. Do you ever feel a sense of guilt being a stay at home mom?
I definitely struggle with some feelings of guilt as a stay at home mom. I always dreamed I would stay home and raise my kids, homeschool and be a homemaker, but I have to say it is harder than I thought to be okay with not contributing financially. I am so grateful to be able to stay home because I know many moms don’t have that luxury, yet I also acknowledge the fact that it can be difficult and overwhelming and at times take all the patience in the world. Moms, ya feel me? It takes many reminders that my “work” is valuable and rewarded in ways aside from a pay check. It is needed and I have to stop being so hard on myself about it.
9. Share three activities/place/crafts you currently enjoy with your babes.
Reading books, currently letting him crawl everywhere and discover, and for me I love wearing him in the sling and visiting coffee shops or walking local shops.
10. Lastly, just for fun, how many babies do you want to have?
I’d love to have four kids, but I think my hubs is leaning way more towards two or three. We will just have to see if I can convince him! Haha
I hope you enjoyed reading about my life and gaining some insight about my feelings as a stay at home mommy! I loved reflecting as I wrote this post. I hope you were able to relate and find some reassurance in your own feelings/daily routines.
Make sure you click around and check out all the other amazing stay at home mama bloggers participating in this fun collaboration below!
Mary Salas honeywild.co // Kacie Ellis elementsofellis.com // Victoria Schneider thesoutherntrunk.com // Amber Hill amberlately.com // Tanya Taylor hislittlelady.com // Carla Thompson curiousnatalia.com // Kymberly Janelle lifewithkymberlyjanelle.com // Emily Lindsey happilylindsey.com //